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Sept. 13, 2026

Archive Story | So What Am I Supposed to Do? - Episode 28

Archive Story | So What Am I Supposed to Do? - Episode 28
The Story & More - with Nancy Jackson
Archive Story | So What Am I Supposed to Do? - Episode 28

Key Takeaways

  • Many believers struggle with anxiety over decision-making because they mistakenly believe they must perform perfectly to maintain God's favor.
  • Being yoked with Christ means being bonded to a stronger, more experienced partner who knows the path and carries the true weight.
  • Just like a farmer pairing a mature ox with a younger one, Jesus leads the way while we simply follow along in peace.
  • When we make mistakes or pull in the wrong direction, Jesus patiently waits for us with no guilt or condemnation rather than abandoning us.
  • Choosing to be yoked with Christ frees us from agonizing over choices and allows us to touch lives daily with joy.

Originally written July 1, 2011
Originally posted here: https://forthesakeofthetruth.com/2011/07/01/so-what-am-i-supposed-to-do/

So what am I supposed to do?

I’ve been writing a lot lately about resting in Christ and abandoning works of the flesh. About how we aren’t to work to be approved in God’s eyes; just receive His grace and favor. If this is all a new concept to you, as it once was to me, then you may ask yourself, “So, what is it I am supposed to do?”

Without a doubt, we are to do something, so how is it we can be certain that what we are doing is truly what we should be doing?

I spent most of my life agonizing over decisions and fearing doing the wrong thing. I didn’t want to be out of God’s favor and was concerned that I would make the wrong choice, or do the wrong thing, and there I would be—out of God’s favor.

I spent so much time battling with this through the years. I now look back on that with such sorrow regarding the time that was wasted when I could have experienced true freedom and in that freedom, touched lives daily, joyfully.

During these struggles, I would read verses such as Matthew 11:30 and wonder how that fit with what I was experiencing; working so hard to be just what I thought Christ wanted me to be.

Matthew 11:28-30

28) “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29) Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30) For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

His yoke did not feel light to me, and I was weary. I knew God’s grace was freely given, but in my altered perception of grace I thought that once I had received that grace, then I was to ‘be good’ or perform to meet a certain Christian standard which I continually seemed to fall short of.

Well, let’s talk about His yoke and the scripture above. Here it appears a contradiction in terms again. Remember previously when I wrote about ‘laboring to rest’ as it says in Hebrews 4:11-16?

The contradiction is between the words ‘yoke’ and ‘find rest’. The word yoke in the dictionary has many meanings, but the two that stood out to me were these two:

1) A frame designed to be carried across a person’s shoulders with equal loads suspended from each end.

2) Something that connects or joins together; a bond or tie.

We have seen pictures of oxen with that heavy wooden yoke across their backs and around their necks. It portrays to us a heavy load and something hard to bear. But we must remember that for a muscled up sturdy ox, the load of the yoke isn’t heavy. It might resemble something like a purse slung over our shoulder or a backpack.

I like #2—something that connects or joins together; a bond or tie. I consider myself yoked to Him, tied to Him, or bonded to Him by my free will.

But let’s talk more about the ox and the wooden yoke we’ve come to picture. I believe that the crowd who were around Jesus in that day understood more completely what He was talking about because they used oxen and knew how to use them to achieve the best results.

This is how it was explained to me. When a farmer yoked two oxen together, they would not take two experienced oxen, but one very experienced, strong and mature ox and one new, younger and weaker.

The purpose of this was that the stronger ox would know the path and be able to pull the weight. The purpose of the younger, weaker ox was just to follow along wherever the stronger, more experienced ox led.

Basically, the younger, weaker ox had no responsibility of choice or decision or power, only the older, stronger ox. The weaker one was just to follow.

When I saw this, I broke free into another level of freedom. I am just to follow. But what if I made a terrible decision in my career or home life and pulled to the left? Well, the stronger, more experienced ox would pull me back to where I needed to be. In fact, the weaker ox can’t pull the stronger ox at all.

In real life, should the weaker ox pull in another direction, the stronger ox would stop until the weaker one would stop pulling in the opposite direction, and they would once again begin their journey. In our own lives, when we pull in the other direction, Jesus stands there lovingly, patiently waiting for us with no guilt or condemnation.

His love is one that wants to give us our dreams and hearts’ desires. He is the one who best knows the way to get there, and if we will follow His lead, we will. How much time have we wasted pulling against the yoke, thinking we knew where we were going and what we were doing while Jesus stood patiently by waiting, ready to resume once we were ready to follow along again!

This is a portrayal of those of us who have chosen to be yoked with Christ Jesus. This is not a picture of those who have chosen otherwise.

If you have made a conscious decision to be yoked with Christ, you do not need to worry about making wrong choices or decisions. That doesn’t mean you won’t, but that means when you do, being yoked to Christ will keep you where you need to be.

It is not up to the weaker ox to know the way, just to follow. Follow Christ today and be free.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What does it mean to be yoked with Christ?

Being yoked with Christ means being joined or bonded to Him by free will, where He acts as the stronger ox who knows the way, and we are the younger ox who simply follows His lead.

How does Matthew 11:28-30 relate to resting in Christ?

Matthew 11:30 states that Christ's yoke is easy and His burden is light, offering true rest for our souls when we stop relying on our own works and instead follow Him.

What happens when we make a bad decision after being yoked with Christ?

When we pull in the wrong direction, Jesus stands patiently by with no guilt or condemnation, lovingly guiding us back to where we need to be.

Transcript

Archive Story | So What Am I Supposed to Do? - Episode 28


Originally written July 1, 2011
Originally posted here: https://forthesakeofthetruth.com/2011/07/01/so-what-am-i-supposed-to-do/
So what am I supposed to do?
I’ve been writing a lot lately about resting in Christ and abandoning works of the flesh. About how we aren’t to work to be approved in God’s eyes; just receive His grace and favor. If this is all a new concept to you, as it once was to me, then you may ask yourself, “So, what is it I am supposed to do?”
Without a doubt, we are to do something, so how is it we can be certain that what we are doing is truly what we should be doing?
I spent most of my life agonizing over decisions and fearing doing the wrong thing. I didn’t want to be out of God’s favor and was concerned that I would make the wrong choice, do the wrong thing, and there I would be—out of God’s favor.
I spent so much time battling with this through the years. I now look back on that with such sorrow regarding the time that was wasted when I could have experienced true freedom and in that freedom, touched lives daily, joyfully.
During these struggles, I would read verses such as Matthew 11:30 and wonder how that fit with what I was experiencing; working so hard to be just what I thought Christ wanted me to be.
Matthew 11:28-30
28) “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29) Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30) For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” 
 His yoke did not feel light to me, and I was weary. I knew God’s grace was freely given, but in my altered perception of grace I thought that once I had received that grace, then I was to ‘be good’ or perform to meet a certain Christian standard which I continually seemed to fall short of.
Well, let’s talk about His yoke and the scripture above. Here it appears a contradiction in terms again. Remember previously when I wrote about ‘laboring to rest’ as it says in Hebrews 4:11-16?
The contradiction is between the words ‘yoke’ and ‘find rest’. The word yoke in the dictionary has many meanings, but the two that stood out to me were these two:
1) A frame designed to be carried across a person’s shoulders with equal loads suspended from each end.
2) Something that connects or joins together; a bond or tie.
We have seen pictures of oxen with that heavy wooden yoke across their backs and around their necks. It portrays to us a heavy load and something hard to bear. But we must remember that for a muscled up sturdy ox, the load of the yoke isn’t heavy. It might resemble something like a purse slung over our shoulder or a backpack.
I like #2—something that connects or joins together; a bond or tie. I consider myself yoked to Him, tied to Him, or bonded to Him by my free will.
But let’s talk more about the ox and the wooden yoke we’ve come to picture. I believe that the crowd who were around Jesus in that day understood more completely what He was talking about because they used oxen and knew how to use them to achieve the best results.
This is how it was explained to me. When a farmer yoked two oxen together, they would not take two experienced oxen, but one very experienced, strong and mature ox and one new, younger and weaker.
The purpose of this was that the stronger ox would know the path and be able to pull the weight. The purpose of the younger, weaker ox was just to follow along wherever the stronger, more experienced ox led.
Basically, the younger, weaker ox had no responsibility of choice or decision or power, only the older, stronger ox. The weaker one was just to follow.
When I saw this, I broke free into another level of freedom. I am just to follow. But what if I made a terrible decision in my career or home life and pulled to the left? Well, the stronger, more mature ox would pull me back to where I needed to be. In fact, the weaker ox can’t pull the stronger ox at all.
In real life, should the weaker ox pull in another direction, the stronger ox would stop until the weaker one would stop pulling in the opposite direction, and they would once again begin their journey. In our own lives, when we pull in the other direction, Jesus stands there lovingly, patiently waiting for us with no guilt or condemnation.
His love is one that wants to give us our dreams and hearts’ desires. He is the one who best knows the way to get there, and if we will follow His lead, we will. How much time have we wasted pulling against the yoke, thinking we knew where we were going and what we were doing while Jesus stood patiently by waiting, ready to resume once we were ready to follow along again!
This is a portrayal of those of us who have chosen to be yoked with Christ Jesus. This is not a picture of those who have chosen otherwise.
If you have made a conscious decision to be yoked with Christ, you do not need to worry about making wrong choices or decisions. That doesn’t mean you won’t, but that when you do, being yoked to Christ will keep you where you need to be.
It is not up to the weaker ox to know the way, just to follow. Follow Christ today and be free.


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My Media Website: NancyJacksonPodcast.com
Check out my website: NancyJacksonAuthor.com
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